Being In My 40’s


Some people have melt downs about aging. They view each milestone as something negative. I’ve never understood it. My mother is the best example of someone who grows old gracefully. She embraces each and every gray hair she receives and has never dyed her hair. She believes in the scripture in the bible at Proverbs 16:31 “Gray hair is a crown of beauty When it is found in the way of righteousness.”  She is very meticulous about caring for her skin. She is now 66 years old and looks like she’s in her late 40’s or early 50’s. She has aged very well. Because of her I have embraced aging. I never had anxiety attacks about turning 25, 30, 35, or 40. Today I am 41 years old and I love it. I’m happy to still be alive.

Being in my 40’s I’ve found that I have more confidence in myself. I’ve accepted my body, my looks and all of my flaws. They don’t define me, they don’t stop life from going on. I no longer waste time worrying about the little things. I’m not saying all of this to toot my own horn like I’m someone special because that’s not my intent. I just wanted to share that I enjoy being in my 40’s. My body is once again changing. I’ve got some gray hairs popping up in my hair. I’m starting to see crows feet around my eyes. I definitely need to exercise more and lose some pounds, but I’m working on that.

I love being in a place in my life where I know who I am. I don’t waste time self doubting and second guessing myself the way I did in my 20’s and 30’s. It’s funny because with this confidence I feel sexier now than I did in my 20’s or 30’s. I was so self conscience and shy back then. I don’t want to say that I have a don’t care attitude, but honestly that’s what it is. I don’t sweat the small stuff. People’s opinions don’t matter or bother me anymore. I don’t seek anyone’s approval or acceptance of me other than God, my husband and my kids. My life today, right now, is exactly where it should be and where I want it to be. I’m happy.

This isn’t to say that there isn’t any room for improvement because there is plenty room for improvement. I still have a few fears that I need to get over if I’m ever going to reach my goals. Where I am today, however, is a much better place than where I was 10 – 15 years ago, and I have my 40’s to thank for that.